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Sex and the City S3E12 — Don't Ask, Don't Tell

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Sex and the City•Season 3•Episode 12

Don't Ask, Don't Tell

8.1/10 · 982 votesAug 27, 200028 min

Ranked #1 of 18 in Season 3•+0.5 vs season avg

Carrie struggles to find the right time to tell Aidan about her affair. Miranda tells a guy she's a stewardess in hopes of getting a date. Charlotte has her dream wedding and marries Trey MacDougal—even after attempted late-night tryst reveals Trey's serious shortcomings. Cunning linguist

Directed byDaniel Algrant

Written byCindy Chupack

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Episode Summary

"Don't Ask, Don't Tell" is episode 12 of Sex and the City season 3. It scored 8.1/10 from 982 votes, ranking #1 of 18 episodes this season (season average 7.6). Directed by Daniel Algrant and written by Cindy Chupack, it aired on August 27, 2000.

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